GirlieOnTheEdge and the Wakefield Doctrine… what Edge?

It’s almost mid-week.  New folks continue showing up over at the Wakefield Doctrine and man, there have been questions!  So I’m posing one here, this morning.  My question for people still sitting on the comment fence is:   “Will the Wakefield Doctrine, the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers work for anyone?”

Valid question.  We all ask at one point or other if a thing will work for “anyone”, the translation of which is: will it work for me.  Here’s the thing – we  live in a “gratify me immediately” world.  Technology is such that the idea of actually having to “work at something” is a foreign concept.  And when it comes to anything that smacks of “self-improvement”?  If it’s not presented in a smells good, tastes good and look what famous person is doing it format …..  Catch my drift?

the Wakefield Doctrine? It’s a personality theory simple in it’s presentation, nuanced and humor filled in it’s “conversation”.  It’s also an extremely valid, verifiable life tool.  Boiled down like a southern peanut, the Doctrine posits there are 3 predominant, characteristic ways in which to view/experience life, relate to the world.  How we act/react in that world is what defines us as predominantly a clark, scott or roger.  

The premise of the Doctrine? OK, but just a tidbit, ‘cuz I know I have something Girlie to write about…..somewhere.   According to the Doctrine, at an early age (between 3 and 5 or 6) each of us chooses a predominant “worldview”.  That of a clark, a scott or a roger“What’s that mean exactly?”  It means that we are all born with the capacity to view/experience life in one of 3 predominant ways.  That of a clark (the outsider), a scott (predator) or a roger (member of the herd).

While we all have the capacity to view life through the eyes of any of the 3, we have only one predominant way in which we relate to the world.   The other 2 (sometimes referred to as “aspects”) don’t go away for most of us.  For most of us, these other 2 aspects linger, hang out within us in a somewhat latent fashion revealing themselves in particular circumstances or situations or when we’re around particular people.

For example, being a clarklike female,  I often find myself acting scottian in certain situations and rogerian in others.  For me the cue is often the other person.  It’s nothing I plan on or suddenly decide “hey, think I’ll go all scottian on Jeff today” or “man, I bet if I get all rogerian I can get the scoop on what’s going on with Patty and Joe”.  For me, it’s what I call a body reaction first, conscious mind reaction second.

I’m predominantly a clark, that is how I relate first to the world.  As a clark.  But I can also find myself, however briefly, seeing the world through the eyes of a scott or roger.  Which is to say I can mock (good naturedly of course) a person in a group situation with great humor, garner laughter (but no hard feelings), walk away and then wonder how I just did that.  Or emote/commisserate with someone and find myself getting invited to dinner by an almost perfect stranger, someone with whom I have a “friendly” yet not overly personal relationship. (after which my clarklike self surfaces and I think “holy shit!” what just happened there?!!” LOL)

Here’s the deal:  if you know how someone looks at life, if you understand how they relate to people/situations, how they react in certain situations, you can understand their behavior.  You may not like their behavior but at least you will understand itIt is the understanding of the why people do what they do that is one of the coolest things about the WakefieldDoctrine.  It takes away the confusion, solves the mystery if you will of why people act the way they do.  Go ahead, try those clarklike glasses, don a pair of scottian Ray Bans or sport some rogerian spectacles.  I guarantee you will start to see the light. 

The catch?  With any theory, program, exercise or tool that smacks of self-development (or what I refer to as personal evolution), there comes a price.  the Wakefield Doctrine, the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers, as a life tool, allows you to answer the questions of why you act/react the way you do in certain circumstances.  It explains why you are drawn to certain people, have particular interests/hobbies and why the other people in your life (or anyone) are they way they are, treat you the way they do.  So?  So now you have choices.  But with choice comes responsibility:  stay in this relationship?, work on this relationship?, cultivate other aspects of yourself in order to move up in business?, switch careers?, relax more?, work more?, go for the brass ring?….you get what I’m sayin’ here. 

So ask yourself:  “how do I relate to the world, what is that relationship?”   Am I predominantly a clark, a scott or a roger?  Then look at the people around you.  Take your time (‘cuz it will take some) and have a little fun figuring it out.  Sit back, watch how people interact with each other.  One day the lights come on and when they do you will never NOT see the clarks, scotts and rogers

Understand the world you live in, understand the world someone else lives in and you understand….the world.

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4 thoughts on “GirlieOnTheEdge and the Wakefield Doctrine… what Edge?

  1. “You may not like their behavior but at least you will understand it. It is the understanding of the why people do what they do that is one of the coolest things about the WakefieldDoctrine.”

    It is also one of the most maddening things about the doctrine. You *know* exactly why people are behaving the way they are…
    It can make a normally calm, self controlled clark want to beat the living daylights of certain others, but it also gives enough wisdom to know that those of the close-minded variety wouldn’t even get it. They’d just feel picked upon — no matter how much they need shook until their teeth rattle.

    Of course, the other side of it is, you know a sincere, “#%!^@ *%@%#!” accompanied with a smile, will solve almost any problem with a scott.

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    1. LOL. Yes, a well placed expletive does wonders when dealing with scotts!
      But let me say what you have implied – it’s those darned rogers. They are the ones that often get under our skin (us clarks). And it’s because, unlike the direct, black and white, in your face scottian behavior, rogers are tactical. Strategic if you will behaviorally. And let’s face it. They are strategically tactical with clarks. For some reason rogers are in awe, albeit a bit frightened, of scotts. And they will do what a scott tells them. They are not in awe of clarks. rogers are in general dismissive of clarks. I have yet to figure this one out but I can tell you this – there is a way to “stand up” to rogers. The Progenitor roger will tell you this very thing. And, from my own experience I will tell you, it involves accessing your scottian aspect. A smile and finger can do wonders with a “teasing, honey I’m only kidding” roger:)

      The bottom line is you can choose how you react to an individual or not. With the Doctrine,(and as they say over there) “you know more about them than they know about you”.
      You choose how a person fits in your life not the other way ’round.

      Thank you for your comment Molly. Let’s toast to a less maddening 2013!!

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