….no Bear, do… not…. turn….. towards…. the light! My beloved Bear. Recently retrieved from secure, sublime?
confinement storage. Why? Having slumbered peacefully, lo these many decades, I wonder: does he now feel threatened? Teased? Tortured by the thought that once again he’s been brought to the land of the living?
Bear has been in existence for what, 50 years? Sure, he’s lost his physical eyes. (he doesn’t really need them to see). Sure, his body shows some wear and tear (he pretends he’s an octogenarian) but nothing a little rehab won’t take care of. (what? whadya mean I’m being cryptic? wtf, was just trying to revive an old draft…fine…I’ll move on…)
A while back Man and I watched the movie Ted. Funny movie. Touching movie. Sappy movie. Silly movie? Made me laugh. It’s on my list of all time funny movies. We watched Ted 2x in 2 nights. For me to do that, a movie has to be good.
Why did we watch it 2x? My rogerian other half fell asleep pretty much at the beginning. He thought Ted looked silly, that the premise was stupid (he told me later). So he fell asleep within 10 minutes of putting it in the DVD player, drifting in and out for the entire length of the movie. So I watched it by myself. I laughed by myself.
Next day, after my roger reluctantly gave in to the premise of a movie with a talking teddy bear as one of it’s stars, we watched it together. And laughed together. Who knew this movie would shine a brighter light into the worldview/personal reality of a roger.
Enter the Wakefield Doctrine. the Wakefield Doctrine, the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers is a personality theory. It’s a life tool that allows an individual “to know more about the other person than they know about themselves”. More importantly, it can shed some light on our own selves. “the Doctrine is for you, not them” as we say.
See, the Doctrine provides a vehicle by which anyone can traverse the land of self-evolution. It’s a method of self development that is fun, if not challenging. To understand the whys... if you are so inclined…clarks lol. scotts, they don’t often have this conflict… fuck you! lol Which leaves our rogerian brethern, the most populous group. Bottom line? the Doctrine gives anyone who is looking the opportunity to understand their own behavior and the behavior of those around them. Period. Don’t we all want a simpler, less complicated life?!
I’m a clarklike female. Go read about my people. My other half is a roger. Yeah, go do the same thing. We walk through different worlds he and I. Mine is based in intellect, his in emotion. Not a bad mix most of the time. This movie, as it turns out, is one of my roger’s favorite movies this year. He enjoyed it immensely. However! Remember, he told me that when I first picked it up and gave it to him he looked at the cover and his first thought was this is going to be stupid. (for a later discussion or perhaps tonight: rogers’ dismissal of clarks and what it represents)
As a clark, I’m not inclined to automatically dismiss a film as being silly because, well…it’s a fucking movie! Aren’t they sometimes about fantastical things? Aren’t they about what could be? Aren’t they vehicles of storytelling like the fairytales of our childhoods? Well, my very own Ken Burns can we watch the Dustbowl yet again? Man, finally realized that. (“I’m just saying, Johnny”. LOL)
Which brings us to the concept of personal realities. Yes, they are different. And yes, they are the same. This Doctrine thing. Damn, if it isn’t amazing. Case in point, we have lived in the same house for a little over 10 years. It was originally a 12 acre parcel that was split and sold in 2 parcels. We bought 2 acres and the house in May 2003, our neighbors bought the remaining 10 acres, stables and barn in July 2003. They subsequently built a house and have been living next to us for the last 10 years. (stay with me Frank. there is a point.)
Our neighbors recently sold their house and the 10 acres. 2 weeks ago they held a garage sale. Tomorrow is their last day in the old house. Then the new owners move in. My other half was all kinda distressed about these people moving away because they’ve been our neighbors for the last 10 years. His discomfort, as we discussed with each other, had nothing to do with missing them. In fact, we were not overly friendly with them. A thing foreign (people have always liked us!) to us but hey, we are in a foreign land. lol Anyway, my Man’s discomfort had to do with the fact that life as he has known it for the last 10 years – the life of neighborly conflicts and annoyances and all that made up the last 10 years with these people was going away. A part of his world was changing.
rogers do not adapt easily, readily to change. They will tell you this themselves. Emotion figures prominantly in the world of a roger. On several levels. My roger was feeling all emotional over the neighbors moving because he was grappling with the fact that a portion of his world, his daily consistent construct (his personal reality) was about to change. Be different. It wasn’t that he would miss these people, it was because they would no longer be part of the landscape he has known for the last decade.
I’d be lying if I said that rogers and their personal realities, their emotion based way of dealing with life doesn’t fascinate me immensely. I often talk about the Wakefield Doctrine at GirlieOnTheEdge and today I seem to have been going on and on and on. Lets’ face it, I’m no Considerer, (she of many words but you always finish reading them fame), so I’m going to continue this conversation tonight on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Call in Show. Live. 8:00 – 8:45 pm EST.
If you’d like to join me, if you’re a roger, know a roger, or simply want info on the workings/elements of the personal reality, aka worldview of rogers (or clarks and scotts) call this number 1-218-339-0422 between 8:00 to 8:45 pm EST. The lady will prompt for this Access code: 512103#. I’ll be there in the car’s dashboard and will happily slide over to make room. Let’s talk.