….no Bear, do… not…. turn….. towards…. the light! My beloved Bear. Recently retrieved from secure, sublime?
confinement storage. Why? Having slumbered peacefully, lo these many decades, I wonder: does he now feel threatened? Teased? Tortured by the thought that once again he’s been brought to the land of the living?
Bear has been in existence for what, 50 years? Sure, he’s lost his physical eyes. (he doesn’t really need them to see). Sure, his body shows some wear and tear (he pretends he’s an octogenarian) but nothing a little rehab won’t take care of. (what? whadya mean I’m being cryptic? wtf, was just trying to revive an old draft…fine…I’ll move on…)
A while back Man and I watched the movie Ted. Funny movie. Touching movie. Sappy movie. Silly movie? Made me laugh. It’s on my list of all time funny movies. We watched Ted 2x in 2 nights. For me to do that, a movie has to be good.
Why did we watch it 2x? My rogerian other half fell asleep pretty much at the beginning. He thought Ted looked silly, that the premise was stupid (he told me later). So he fell asleep within 10 minutes of putting it in the DVD player, drifting in and out for the entire length of the movie. So I watched it by myself. I laughed by myself.
Next day, after my roger reluctantly gave in to the premise of a movie with a talking teddy bear as one of it’s stars, we watched it together. And laughed together. Who knew this movie would shine a brighter light into the worldview/personal reality of a roger.
Enter the Wakefield Doctrine. the Wakefield Doctrine, the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers is a personality theory. It’s a life tool that allows an individual “to know more about the other person than they know about themselves”. More importantly, it can shed some light on our own selves. “the Doctrine is for you, not them” as we say.
See, the Doctrine provides a vehicle by which anyone can traverse the land of self-evolution. It’s a method of self development that is fun, if not challenging. To understand the whys... if you are so inclined…clarks lol. scotts, they don’t often have this conflict… fuck you! lol Which leaves our rogerian brethern, the most populous group. Bottom line? the Doctrine gives anyone who is looking the opportunity to understand their own behavior and the behavior of those around them. Period. Don’t we all want a simpler, less complicated life?!
I’m a clarklike female. Go read about my people. My other half is a roger. Yeah, go do the same thing. We walk through different worlds he and I. Mine is based in intellect, his in emotion. Not a bad mix most of the time. This movie, as it turns out, is one of my roger’s favorite movies this year. He enjoyed it immensely. However! Remember, he told me that when I first picked it up and gave it to him he looked at the cover and his first thought was this is going to be stupid. (for a later discussion or perhaps tonight: rogers’ dismissal of clarks and what it represents)
As a clark, I’m not inclined to automatically dismiss a film as being silly because, well…it’s a fucking movie! Aren’t they sometimes about fantastical things? Aren’t they about what could be? Aren’t they vehicles of storytelling like the fairytales of our childhoods? Well, my very own Ken Burns can we watch the Dustbowl yet again? Man, finally realized that. (“I’m just saying, Johnny”. LOL)
Which brings us to the concept of personal realities. Yes, they are different. And yes, they are the same. This Doctrine thing. Damn, if it isn’t amazing. Case in point, we have lived in the same house for a little over 10 years. It was originally a 12 acre parcel that was split and sold in 2 parcels. We bought 2 acres and the house in May 2003, our neighbors bought the remaining 10 acres, stables and barn in July 2003. They subsequently built a house and have been living next to us for the last 10 years. (stay with me Frank. there is a point.)
Our neighbors recently sold their house and the 10 acres. 2 weeks ago they held a garage sale. Tomorrow is their last day in the old house. Then the new owners move in. My other half was all kinda distressed about these people moving away because they’ve been our neighbors for the last 10 years. His discomfort, as we discussed with each other, had nothing to do with missing them. In fact, we were not overly friendly with them. A thing foreign (people have always liked us!) to us but hey, we are in a foreign land. lol Anyway, my Man’s discomfort had to do with the fact that life as he has known it for the last 10 years – the life of neighborly conflicts and annoyances and all that made up the last 10 years with these people was going away. A part of his world was changing.
rogers do not adapt easily, readily to change. They will tell you this themselves. Emotion figures prominantly in the world of a roger. On several levels. My roger was feeling all emotional over the neighbors moving because he was grappling with the fact that a portion of his world, his daily consistent construct (his personal reality) was about to change. Be different. It wasn’t that he would miss these people, it was because they would no longer be part of the landscape he has known for the last decade.
I’d be lying if I said that rogers and their personal realities, their emotion based way of dealing with life doesn’t fascinate me immensely. I often talk about the Wakefield Doctrine at GirlieOnTheEdge and today I seem to have been going on and on and on. Lets’ face it, I’m no Considerer, (she of many words but you always finish reading them fame), so I’m going to continue this conversation tonight on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Call in Show. Live. 8:00 – 8:45 pm EST.
If you’d like to join me, if you’re a roger, know a roger, or simply want info on the workings/elements of the personal reality, aka worldview of rogers (or clarks and scotts) call this number 1-218-339-0422 between 8:00 to 8:45 pm EST. The lady will prompt for this Access code: 512103#. I’ll be there in the car’s dashboard and will happily slide over to make room. Let’s talk.
Awesome sauce! I love that you call your other half ‘Man’. I do it too, but more usually when I want something, and then it’s ‘Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaan?’, complete with fluttery eyelids.
I’m glad you got your bear back. I’m not sure where mine is – inventively named Blue Bear (cos he’s…y’know…blue), he’s been part of my life since before I was born. He still has velvety feet and two shining eyes, but I daresay he feels rather unloved at the moment. Either that or he’s in retired teddybear heaven. Although (am I the only one who gets scared watching Toy Story 2 or 3, not because of the creepy characters, but because I no longer actively love and play with my toys and worry that they’ll feel abandoned? Oh the anthropomorphism!)
I watched the trailer for Ted, and I was not convinced. Adunno – I guess even clarks can agree to disagree 🙂 (also, fascinated that your other half’s a roger – I think mine is too and I’ve been watching for a while now. Still uncertain).
I hope your new neighbours are nice and you get on well with them 🙂
Thank you Lizzie:) Damn! Never tried the fluttery eyelids. LOL
Don’t know what possessed me to rummage through boxes in search of him. I daresay you may find your Blue Bear again and no! you are not the only one scared by creepy cartoon characters! I’ve a notion we clarks are anthropomorphic queens if ever there were any.(sigh)
Of course we can disagree. Many amazing conversations have arisen from clarks exchanging viewpoints, opinions and such:)
About your better half – you can always do the process of elimination test. What does he seem less like? My Man is a roger with a secondary scottian aspect and a fairly developed tertiary clarklike aspect. He politely, some might say passively-aggressively, dismisses the Doctrine yet on occaision displays an understanding of it that I didn’t give him credit for. It is his resistance to it not being an already established personality theory, accepted “out there” by you know, everyone lol that so points to him as a roger.(*obviously there are many other “indicators”) rogers and their referential authorities!
😦 Maybe you should watch the entire movie before final judgement. I can promise you there are some really funny and touching parts in this movie!
Me too. Guess we’ll find out very soon.
Thank you for stopping by today!!
If I had to guess at him, I’d say he was a roger with a strong secondary clark and almost no scott at all. I’m watching and waiting 🙂
I’ll try to borrow the movie when someone I know has it 🙂 That seems like a good compromise. Thanks for the recommendation.
There seems to be a pretty high percentage of clark/roger couples out there:)
Happy to suggest movies Lizzie. Not sure sometimes when I suggest films that contain, shall we say, risque content. It sometimes backfires! I really like the movie Dusk ’til Dawn, a Quentin Tarantino/Rodriguez film. A friend was visiting several years ago and we popped it in one night. I was totally shocked to find out she was offended by some of the language. It had never occurred to me! oops! So much for knowing best of friends!
Glad you stopped by today:)
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I think clarks actually like change. Every so often, I have to uproot and change MAJOR things in my life: career, where I live, my car, school…I’m going through that right now. Happens about every 5-7 years. LOL good stuff here. Alas, I should get offa this computer and do something with myself on this gorgeous Saturday. 🙂
We do indeed! Change encourages a creative streak within us. It also helps to keep us from plain old getting bored. lol
I can relate very much to your uprooting. My first memory of the concept of “changing things up” came about in college. Mid year, sophomore year my roommate moved to another dorm and I wound up having the room to myself. For the rest of the year I can’t tell you how many times I re-arranged the furniture and wall coverings. That “tradition” carried over into my days of living in apts.. Seems I would move just about every 2 years:)
Thank you for stopping by Cyndi. I hope you had a wonderful day today:) The weather was gorgeous here as well although the temps were a bit on the high side.
Talk to you tonight?!
Wait – I thought you were married to Clark! Now I’m so confused!!! And aw…bear…so glad he’s back. My son sleeps with a white panda “beaw” and I hope he will hang onto him forever. I don’t dismiss movies that I think will be silly either. But if I hate it in the first 15 minutes, I move on…
And now I have to rent the movie Ted because if you liked it enough to watch 2 nights in a row, I’m gonna love it.
Eegads woman! Where’ve you been getting your info? LOL Actually, Clark is married to a very lovely rogerian woman. Now and again during the Sat. Night Drive Calls he might refer to Phyllis’s take on particular things as it pertains to the rogerian “view” of things. Ask Clark about Phyllis’s “lab coat story” sometime. Very cool insight into the workings of rogers:)
Truth be told Kristi, Clark is my brother. I did a post not too far back in which I opened with a pic of he and I when we were kids. The look on our faces describes the kind of relationship we had pretty much up until I was in high school.
I agree with you. 15 minutes is usually enough time to know if a movie sucks although I sometimes will extend it to 30 minutes…if it looks like it should get better.
Let me know if you like the movie.
P.S. Everyone should have a bear:D
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