Pressure or Permission?

Last night was Saturday night. As has been routine for several years now, I called into the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive Call in Show. Whew! Acronym time? the WDSNDCS? Yikes! That’s just as bad!!

It was a slow night last night. Not as popular as the WD Friday night Party Vid Chat, less populated than the WD Sunday morning Brunch Vid (as of late), it is nonetheless my favorite of the 3 Doctrine related activities. Why? I guess because for going on a year, there’s been a regular caller. And she’s a clark. Before you rogers start rolling your eyes and tell someone to wake up the scotts, know this: the conversation each Saturday night is fun, funny, informative and useful. 

The phone lines open at 8 PM est. Officially the show “ends” at 8:45 however there have been many a night when the call runs later. Last night was one such call. Cyndi didn’t call in until 8:40. But you know what they say, better late than never! As it turns out, she and her husband were engaged in a discussion trying to “analyze” (and dramatize) and “figure” the behavior of some people they know. See, both Cyndi and her husband have a good grasp on the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine.

I guess it comes as no surprise when I tell you that since Cyndi is a clark, I’m a clark and Clark is, well, the Progenitor clark, the conversation takes turns, veers out and back in ways that it doesn’t when rogers and scotts are involved. No offense guys but sometimes, clarks just need to talk to their own:)

As Cyndi shared and brought us up to date about her life exploits and such, we found ourselves discussing clarks and the concept of permission. Cyndi was describing the characteristc of clarks putting so much pressure on themselves (to perform, to measure up, to achieve…fill in the blank…). Clark clarified what she was describing and hit the nail on the head when he said: “clarks don’t give themselves permission”. It’s not so much putting pressure on ourselves as much as allowing ourselves the… right to feel/get/express anger, giving ourselves permission to enjoy accomplishment and achievement. (yo! Clark. Write a post for us clarks. About Permission)

It was an all too brief conversation among 3 clarks. A conversation I’ll be sure to bring up again most likely on another Saturday Night Call or perhaps at a Sunday Brunch. Hey, somewhere amongst these words I know there are 9 Thankfuls. My 10th Thankful? Having the company of other clarks in which I can simply be a clark.



  1. Clark Scottroger · February 2, 2014

    well sure:
    1) audi’s with their bluetooth-based phone systems that allow multi-line phone conversations;
    2) the free conference call and the warm and reassuring woman announcer
    3) above referenced Doctrine
    4) clarks (as a people) capacity to follow a conversational trail through hill an dale like Alice on an endorphin high
    5) cyndi for having the refreshing lack of artifice
    6) yourself for the thorough grounding in the aforementioned Doctrine
    7) the lack of rogers and scotts (on said discussion calls…like getting drunk in your dorm room…fun, exciting (relatively) safe but not so much on the long term benefit
    8) fill in blank ( I only now realized I could have copy/pasted samples of the Post to cite as TToT items
    9) love the hoodie
    10) Rule 1.3


    • GirlieOnTheEdge · February 2, 2014

      Why thank you. For your 10. Here. What more does a body need?

      Now about that post…..


  2. Lisa @ The Meaning of Me · February 2, 2014

    I really don’t know enough about the WD yet…suspect I’m a Clark, but haven’t quite figured it out yet.

    Sounds like the call-in was great fun. Have a wonderful week!


    • GirlieOnTheEdge · February 2, 2014

      You have me curious Lisa as to what it is that makes you suspect you are a clark:) Process of elimination is a pretty helpful method…if you know for sure what you aren’t…

      It was. You’ll have to call in one Saturday night and check it out:)
      Thanks for stopping in. You have a good week also!


  3. Lizzi R · February 2, 2014

    You guys have SUCH good chats on the call-in. Ugh. *envious*

    Cyndi TOTALLY hit the nail on the head. Permission is HUGE, and always self-denied.

    Maybe that’s why we need other clarks – to tell us when we need to give ourselves permission.

    We are the kings and queens of keeping on.


    • GirlieOnTheEdge · February 2, 2014

      Yes, we do! I always learn something new, always have a little more light shed on you know, life:)
      And so we are, aren’t we? And that’s ok if for the right reason.


  4. skipcote · February 2, 2014

    That permission thing is so damn true! Ive put many an analysts offspring through college trying to figure that one out….well got it figured but trying to change it against my inate self is where the money lies..


    • GirlieOnTheEdge · February 2, 2014

      You said it zoe. It all seems to boil down to self awareness and practice. Simple enough on paper, eh? lol


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