TToT Con’t….Back in the Day…. there was “Stand In Line”. I did.

Damn! Back in the day, yes folks, the 1980’s (T-ful #8), I bought this album brand new. Yes. Album. Today, this day, this 7th day of September, 2014 I’m watching the VH1 vid for the very first time. Back in the day, I didn’t have cable. Didn’t see any MTV vids. Nothing. Back in the day (ok, still am), I was all about metal, young “guitar gods” and the energy that was the music of the day.

Back in the day for me, there were no visuals except those that came from seeing a band or musician live. It was left to my imagination. Point in case, until today, I did not know what Graham Bonnet (his voice could be T-ful #9 but isn’t) looked like. Back then. Back in the day. I don’t want to know what he looks like now because that would wreck it. It would wreck the image. The energy. I still get from listening to certain music. From back in the day.

It’s all about the energy. If someone planted a camera to catch moments of me enjoying certain music they would see a head nodding, sometime singing ( at times loudly lol) 50 something caught up in the energy. It is the be all and end all. Music. It is my “expression”. I borrow this term from Clark over at the Wakefield Doctrine. rogers are known to possess certain activities which are referred to as their “expression”. Being the polar opposite to a roger, as a clark I like the term. Fits.

Where the hell was I? Oh yeah. Music is my aeroplane (yup the Chilis are T-ful #9), music is my aeroplane, it’s my aeroplane….oh, man. Got so interrupted. Lost the flow. Lost the….impetus here. What can I drag up from the vaults to inspire and otherwise catapult me to the finish line? Where do I look? To what genre? What am I now feeling?

That music can be transformative? That it is a time capsule? That it is an expression? That it can catapult, comfort, cajole and without fail communicate that which singular words cannot? As much as I love the bass guitar, it is singularly the six string that pulls, tears, heals and otherwise allows me to feel to the fullest.

This has turned into a ramble but I committed to a continuation from yesterday’s words…I’m thankful for “back in the day”.  I’m strong enough to carry her bags (T-ful #10). My music “library” is vast enough there will never not be sufficent energy for today. If we cannot use the past, what use is it? If we do not move forward, there can be no future. Once upon a time in the future, there will always be a “back in the day”.

It is with sincerity of strength I post this vid. And the second one. Don’t think I need to explain why.

 

Just a Mirror…

Thank goodness for this bloghop. The Ten Things of Thankful Blog Hop. I have been distant, non-existent. Not writing as I should. Believe me when I tell you, I would if I could. (Yes. Dr. Seuss moment gone.)

I hear it’s an anniversary weekend. 40 is the number. Can I do a post in 40 words or less? Probably, but I don’t want to. Not really. See, I’ve got to not take the easy way out. ‘Cuz there’s never an easy way out. Looking for the easy out is simply stacking the odds in a closet that more than likely has already reached capacity. I’m not into shoving things in closets. I might stack things neatly, but no shoving.

Me. I’m more of an under the bed person. Several years ago, I discovered “bed lifts”. Like elevator shoes for your bed. In no time at all you can raise your bed 6″ and voila! under bed storage. I used to be all for it. I still am. But only in emergencies. My “new” life will be the minimalist life heretofore contemplated. Time has come today (ungh, ungh) to put all that legal tender where I normally put food.

So what is GirlieOnTheEdge grateful for this week? This hop. It allows me to try for the umpteenth time to get back on track. With the writing thing. And for reminding me that amidst all the challenges of daily life there is always, always a thing to be thankful for. It’s a marvelous tool for forced acknowledgement of:

The fact, I have a job. This, no small feat, story be told. And this, my anniversay month.

Knock now on everything wooden that my box o metal is till running down the highway although I got extremely nervous last night with a more than rough idle when I went to leave the store. 

My sanity. That it is intact. There may be some dissenters out there. To you guys – f off. (I never said I may have lost it at some point in time lol)

Computers! Yes and telephones. Friday started pretty typically until I looked in the bathroom mirror. Holy shit! I never felt my eye explode. This as I was certain no blood was going to pour outta my eyeball was quite the surprise. So thanks to calling someone (I’d already turned off my computer), it was determined, barring no intsant god awful disease, that I suffered from subconjunctival hemorrhage. Not a pretty sight my friends.

Everytime I participate in this hop I will mention the Wakefield Doctrine. (and link to it, of course!). If you have the patience to read, learn, listen and discuss it’s principles, you will realize that you have an extremely valuable life tool. (insert commercial: “Don’t leave home without it!”)

For people I haven’t met yet but hope to one day. Kristi! Yeah you! We don’t live that far apart now so what the fuck! Funny, it’s no big thing as we are 2 clarks. It will happen. And the hostess with the mostess (and the cupcakes to boot) Lizzi. When she makes her transcontinental trip to the US of A. I want to meet you. In fact, the 3 of us will have to get together IRL.

Anybody else get nervous about when to stop? I haven’t been counting the thankfuls. I don’t want to count. On the other hand, I don’t want to leave anything out that later I’ll say to myself “shit!” why weren’t you thankful for…..lots of words here. Enough for me. Sometimes, I’m better off without words…..be good to yourselves…..next time……

Edge Warriors – Renegades All

“Ren-e-gade (adj.) – 2: having rejected tradition:  UNCONVENTIONAL”

So what is more cathartic?  Saying “FUCK YOU!” (or “fuck you”) to someone or simply and silently giving them the finger.  Case in point:  this morning my SO baited me with a comment as I was leaving the living room.  As soon as his comment hit my ears I spun around fully prepared to say fuck you until I saw him smile.  What a roger!!  I decided instead to give him the finger – with an equally magnanimous smile.  LOL 

His comment of course was a way of “fucking” with me.  He often defends himself with – “gee hon, I was just fuckin’ with you”.  And I know this to be true because I know he lives in the world of a roger

How did it make me feel?  Giving him the finger?  Oddly very good.  It felt good because it’s a thing I don’t often do.  Now yelling and/or screaming,  “fuck you” while driving (with variations to include “what the fuck”, “you fucking moron” – said both ways –   the 1st putting emphasis on “fucking”, the 2nd putting the emphasis on “moron”, etc), that’s another story.  But that behavior has been almost nonexistent since moving from outside the nation’s capitol to this little ole lazy beach town.   

Tell me – who/what determines the ultimate value in a gesture or comment, a song, blog, book, video or movie….. ?  Who/what possesses the “right”, the “correct” interpretation.  Can there be a “right” or “correct” interpretation? (NO, I am not baiting the rogers out there. Honest. LOL) Is method of delivery important? Does it matter whether people know each other?  What the heck is it about communication that stymies some folks? (see, if everyone knew about the Doctrine there would be precious few “communication breakdowns”. 

Today I dub “Tip Your Hat Tuesday”.  That’s right, I’m tipping my hat to all those inclined towards contributing creatively to the world.  To every last one of you, Renegades All.

Slam-a-ja-amm at the edge of the Wakefield Doctrine…

Now you can call the Doctrine, (that’s the Wakefield Doctrine) and ask Questions about the Wakefield Doctrine tonight and every Saturday Night from 8:00 to 8:45 pm EST ”  

Yes, yes, I have plugged this new old secret of the universe  in past posts.  Simply dial this number: 1-218-339-0422 tonight and when prompted enter this passcode:  512103, “followed by the pound sign”.  The lovely lady may tell you that you just entered an incorrect passcode.  If she does, she is wrong.  Terribly wrong.  Enter the passcode again, as instructed.  You will then be connected live to join in the conversation, real time, on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive Call in Show.

“What is this Saturday Night Drive thing?”  Excellent question.  It is an opportunity to talk with various Progenitors, Downsprings and FTODs about the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers while they literally drive around and about the quaint, coastal town of Wakefield fielding calls from around the werld…..

 I dare you to call in…..

An Interview at the Edge

GirlieOnTheEdge is a blog of  “eclectic musings of a female clark“.  I am often found making reference to The Wakefield Doctrine.  And that makes sense.  If you know not what a “clark” is, then get yourself over to The Wakefield Doctrine Blog. It will explain what a clark is….and what a scott is….and what a roger is.  Actually, what it does is present a rather simple, unique (and as everyone in the universe knows), fun way of figuring out the people in your everyday life.  Oh, and give you the answers (to the questions you have) about your own self.  In a nutshell, The Wakefield Doctrine, aka the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers is a personality theory that explains people and their behavior based upon how they view the world– ie. as a clark, a scott or a roger.  Enough said.

In a gesture to my own self, I invited FOTD (Friend of the Doctrine), and of recent bestowment of title, Downspring  Molly M. to be a guest at GirlieOnTheEdge.  I was most curious to get a newcomer’s view on the Doctrine and as luck would have it she is a clark.  

(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Welcome Molly.  Thanks for “coming on the show”.
(Molly M.): You’re welcome, and thank you for having me!
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  You indicated earlier that you came by The Wakefield Doctrine somewhat sideways?  Tell us a little about that.
(Molly M.): I first came across The Wakefield Doctrine when Clark followed one of my profiles on Hubpages.  As I read through his profile, I saw the word ‘doctrine’ and immediately thought ‘cult’, so, with a quick glance at the rest of the profile, where I saw something about personalities and a phone number, I was off to read up on this thing.  After all, if I was seeing it on Hubpages, I would probably be running into some follower of it soon. 
After reading a few posts, I realized it was just some personality thing and left.  Then, Clark friended me on facebook… and so I checked things out again. 
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Huh.  “Just some personality thing”.  What do you think of it so far? Still think it’s a cult? lol
(Molly M.): Is it a cult?  That whole hat thing (for your damn head) has me a little worried, but other than that — NO! 
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  “Hat for your damn head” – very clarklike humor:)
I’m sure folks would love to know Molly what it was that made you decide you were a clark
(Molly M.):  “What made me decide I must be a clark?”  First of all, Clark kept calling me a clark, then there was this from the FAQs on his blog:

I think sometimes I am (a scott) then other times I must be (a clark). Whats up with that?
You’re a clark.

Hey, wait you can’t be that sure on the basis of one question!

Yes I can. (I’m a clark)”

And I knew I wasn’t a roger…. 
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Have you identified your spouse? Your children? (given they are over the age of 6) yet?  How does it stand up against your own “system” for making sense of it all….
(Molly M.): I have identified my spouse and older children.  Amongst them, there are two scotts, a clark and a strong roger.  To be honest, I’ve never given my own system much thought, but I guess I basically labeled people as Big Fish (small pond), Tigger (bouncy, bouncy, fun, fun, fun), Sheeple (aka posers), and Dreamers (impossible = I’m possible).
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Yes, all clarks have some sort of system.  Yours sounds intriguing.
 
For those who may have stopped by for the first time today, Molly and yours truly have been engaged recently in conversation as it pertains to identifying clarklike females via their headdressings (among other things).  Her questions have been indicative of an underlying, hm – maybe organic, instinctive, awareness/understanding of clarks but is still catching up on the nuances. 
 
(GirlieOnTheEdge): Tell us Molly your understanding so far of what it means to be a clark of the female persuasion?  Are you surprised that Diane Keaton/Annie of the film Annie Hall has long been considered the patron saint of clarklike females everywhere? 🙂
(Molly M.): From my perspective, being a clarklike female means being a free thinker who is not afraid to do my own thing or be different.  I feel no need to make others see things my way, as long as they don’t try to force me into their mold, but I am not afraid to share my ideas.  I’m also likely to question nearly everything I am told. “Live and let live” and “To thine own self be true” are mottoes I respect.
As to Diane Keaton, I have to tell you, I am not familiar with her or the movie. 
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Bravo! In my humble opinion it takes a lot of strength, as a clark to stand as an individual among the throngs of rogers and the rampaging scotts of the world.. God knows, fear is a river that always runs through we like people.  As to our patronness, you best check her out and then  tell me she is not the most clarklike female!
(GirlieOnTheEdge): Last question – You made a statement over at the WD recently about recognizing the rogers of your past.  Have you also identified the scotts in your life as well? 
(Molly M.): I think I have, and the clarks too.
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  OK.  The real “last question“.  Are you finding The Wakefield Doctrine a useful tool?
(Molly M.):  Yes, and I will give an example of it.
There is one person in my life that presented themselves one way (Big Fish), but intuition said they were another way (Dreamer).  In private, they would agree that my intuition was right… but continued with the facade, despite the fact it made them miserable in the long run.
After reading through The Wakefield Doctrine quite a bit, I realized that they were a clark, presenting themselves as a scott, but without the motives of a scott.  This person made themselves to be the life of the party, but couldn’t handle the “fakeness” of false friendship (because a friend is a friend or they are not)…that and the crowd they were surrounded by bored them.
Knowing what I know now, this person’s behavior makes perfect sense, and tells me that I can trust my intuition when it comes to dealing with peopleIt also showed me why some people (scotts) get so upset with me for questioning their ideas, while others (clarks) seem to thrive on it.  And rogers… well, at least now I have an understanding of why having their own opinion on matters and/or doing their own thing isn’t as important to them as adhering to the group.
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  This has been fun Molly M. and I hope you have enjoyed yourself as much as I have.  It’s not often I get to interact with a fellow clarklike female. Perhaps next time…
 

(GirlieOnTheEdge):  “what?! he’s where?! well, get him to makeup and send him up stat! wait! skip makeup and escort him out here…”    Folks, we have a special treat for you! the author of The Wakefield Doctrine, none other than the Progenitor clark, has paid us a surprise visit.  Let’s give him a welcome scotts would be proud of….
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Thanks so much for stopping by Clark.
(Clark):  You are welcome.
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  As Creator, how do you view the success of The Wakefield Doctrine so far?
(Clark):   Mostly with semi-amazement. That the thing has maintained itself and (even) grown in the last two years, is kinda of cool and gratifying. The gratifying (feeling) that I get when I stop and consider what we have done in the last two years is a function of the effect of the applications of The Wakefield Doctrine itself!  I know how I react as a clark and I have a sense of how I would/could possibly respond with a more developed scottian and rogerian aspect(s). Our understanding of the Doctrine has resulted in something that is getting more complex and more…’useful a tool’ than any of us had ever thought it would become. 
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  I see.  So is there anything you would like to do that you have not yet done with The Wakefield Doctrine Blog?  You know, cable TV show…that sort of thing.
(Clark):  Everything about The Wakefield Doctrine comes under the heading of what can I do to promote and present the
Doctrine to as many people as possible in as effective manner as possible. Now.  Radio might be fun.
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Rumor has it you’ve been writing a screenplay?  A book?  Anything to those rumors?
(Clark):  The thing with the screenplay was something I thought might be fun with Mel (Spatula in the Wilderness) but that has languished. The process has been to keep doing what I have been able to do, i.e. producing Posts and look for opportunity.  As people join us, Claire and Molly, most recently, will I suspect require us to think more generally, more globally with our efforts, as we are joined by people with different sets of skills that can be employed in the total effort.
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  I have gone wa-ay overboard time/space wise (no pun intended lol) but before we close out the Interview Clark, would you clear up some misconceptions about clarks and emotion.  There are a lot of rogers out there that just don’t get it.  I mean, come on, we are so not robots! lol
(Clark):  I assume the question is about the apparent lack of emotion that many clarks seem to present?  That is a matter of a disconnect rather than anything else. Perhaps if you would provide a context, I might better provide an answer.
(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Context is important.  And much more important to clarks – you might say everything is about context, no?  By extension, since clarks are the “blue monkeys”, how can there be anything but a general sense of disconnect? I’m reaching now aren’t I? lol Hm…let’s see…alright – I have found myself more often than not, not finding funny a joke that has been told in a group setting (or singularly).  And I simply do not laugh. clarks are not the best at “fake” laughter (but we sure have the smile down). What a catch 22!  The joke teller thinks we have no sense of humor and yet as clarks we know we have a wonderful sense of humor, albeit, on the dry side. People often characterize that lack of a “sense of humor” as a lack of emotion.  Am I making sense? 
(Clark): Define “sense”.  Since you mention context and your place in it, then  you are disconnected.  Real people (rogers and scotts) do not reference their “context” as they go about living their lives.  Since you mention it, the reason clarks are funny is that they are able to see everyday “from a distance”, the reason clarks do not often find jokes funny is that they see the “context” “from a distance”. You will need to decide which is more important to you, to laugh with the others or be laughed at by others (which is inevitable when you don’t laugh at their jokes)…the choice is yours

(GirlieOnTheEdge):  Well, this has been quite an interesting – STOP!!! I can’t use this adjective! clarks everywhere are guilty of overusing it!  What else do we have…..”fabulous“!  It has been fabulous having Molly M. and Clark as guests here at the Edge.  I hope you both have enjoyed it as much as I have!  Until next time, this is GirlieOnTheEdge saying “good day and good living!”  

 

Beware the Ides of March and the edge of that blade…

And so, despite the many portents spread before me like an old and comforting  blanket I will go forth today on the Ides of March.  Does it matter that the date is ambiguous?  On the Roman calender it is simply the 15th day of the month.  Who knew there was an Ides of  May, July and October.  I certainly did not.  Thanks to William Shakespeare the date is synonymous with death, betrayal, guilt. (it’s also about friendship and loyalty).  Even those who have not read Mr. Shakepspeare’s work are familiar with the reference, familiar with the soothsayer/seer who warns Julius Ceasar to “beware the ides of March”.

How much of our perception of the world is influenced, yea, formed, by another’s words, by emotional contagion, popular thought, film, art, poetry, history?  What goes into the mixing bowl that produces our “perception” of everyday life?  Do we have control over it?  How can we separate the yolk of individuality from the white that is the collective?  According to the folks over at the Wakefield Doctrine  we all choose, very early in life (around 5 or 6) one of 3 ways to view the world.  We “choose” to view the world as either a clark, scott or roger.  But the question remains: how does one choose?

It makes sense that as a clark fear has a prominent place in my “world view”.  Therefore, it surprises me not that I favor the following quote.

     “Cowards die many times before their deaths; The valiant never taste of      death but once.
Of all the wonders that I yet have heard, it seems to me most strange that men should fear;
Seeing that death, a necessary end, will come when it will come”. – (Act II, Scene II)”

 

P.S.  I was a tad dismayed that it is next to impossible to find an Iron Maiden Ides of March vid to share.  Lo, I tire so and therefore shall take repose and listen yonder in my own abode to such music as will soothe my soul….today of all days.